My Empty Carriage

Freedom of Speech

May 6th, 2010

I had the most extraordinary thing happen with my book. I attend a workout facility and know they have many pregnant woman as clients. I asked if I could place my book at the register and postcards with my info on them.  It  seemed to be like a good fit for my book. I guess not. I was approached by management there and they handed me back my book and postcards stating that ” your book has caused  controversy here.” I was a little surprised to hear that. They went on to say” there is a woman here who will not come back if the book is in the studio.”

For me this brings up Farenheit 451. Isn’t it enough to not like the book but to demand it be taken out of the facility a bit controlling. If every person listened to an ignorant uneducated woman like this wouldn’t half of the books in the world be burning in some trash can. Okay I am a bit dramatic. But why does her uncomfortability with the topic outweigh the content in the book. Yes there is sperm mentioned in the book. Is having help with conceiving a crime?  Scientist have been hard at work to help create miracles for families all over the world. They have made the impossible possible for many of us. I believe this is a generational thing as well. She is in her sixties and the language of infertility is a foreign concept. Back when she was having children you either could or couldn’t!

I feel so fortunate to live in a time where medical advances create miracles. Thats how I feel.

I suppose the content hit a nerve for her and my guess is it will do the same for many other people. But I feel it is every personal right to make a choice that works for them, whether it be their sexuality, or being a vegan, choosing how to start a family. The list goes on and on. My idea in life is live and let live. But that’s me.

xClaudia

To Tell or not to tell?

May 3rd, 2010

For me it always seemed like the obvious choice to talk to my children about how they were conceived.  Yet it seems many families have not thought about sharing their childs conception or are adamantly opposed to speaking about it. It reminds me of adoption back when families made the choice to never tell their child that they were adopted.

Some might say peas and potatoes but I like to think that honesty is the best policy. Especially when so much time and love went into families who use assisted reproduction. I feel the world is opening up about the topic of IVf. But when I share how my children were born I always get “oh I didn’t know that.” It feels negative. I also am meant with ” we did it the old fashioned way.” Well who the heck wouldn’t want to do it the old fashioned way. Sometimes this is not a possibility and we have to explore how to get from A to B a way we had not invisioned. I feel very proud of  the process I went through to have what I wanted most in my life, a child.

Now once we get them it’s a whole other ball game.

xClaudia

April 9, 2010

April 9th, 2010

I have been hearing of so many late miscarriages of young woman lately. I have something called factor five leiden which is a blood disorder and it causes miscarriages early on or very late in pregnancies. It usually goes undetected until a woman has multiple miscarriages before you are tested.

I was living in london and was fortunate enough to be diagnosed there. It turns out that 3 people in my family also have it. I feel like this should be a standard test for woman when they become pregnant. I know how hard it is to get pregnant and a woman wants to do anything they can to keep the pregnancy. I had to inject 2x a day with blood thinners. It sucked but was worth it because I had 3 healthy babies. But i did have to deliver earlier which also lowers the risk of miscarriage. Doctors will say it is unnecessary but I think it is totally worth it to find this out before when you become pregnant. perhaps I am type a and a bit crazy.

xClaudia

April 1, 2010

April 1st, 2010

My nose is still to the grind stone. I had my book at a school event last night at fun clothing shop. I have no idea if anyone bought a book? I have ordered postcards today which I am so excited for. Then I can take the book to all my local shops and I also found a really cool inexpensive stand for the book. The small things are very exciting right now.  This is a lot of mental work but it feels rewarding when a positive happens.  I am still working on my e blast to 200 media resources.  Self publishing is a bit crazy. Everyone has an opinion on what I should be doing My head is spinning.

I need all the support.

xoClaudia

March 30, 2010

March 30th, 2010

Here I go again. I am a dinosaur when it comes to technology. I tried to post yesterday but it was somehow lost in the blog ether. This a very slow process. I am trying to do 2 or 3 things each day towards getting my book out into the world. I live in Los Angeles I am hitting my local shops. I have been met with lots of enthusiasm so far and a lot of great suggestions. I am also collecting quotes form some amazing doctors and parenting experts who have read and liked “I Can’t Wait to Meet You.”

I am gearing up to do an eblast which is a new term for me to all the mommy blogs, websites and parenting magazines. I have also been asked to write my first article for a family club in downtown nyc. That is my most exciting news as of yet.

xClaudia

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